We as human beings are responsible for the decisions we make. Being entitled to our own opinions and largely unique thought process, which is very impulsive at times we take decisions that later come back to haunt us. Sometimes we take a decision to lie. What makes us lie? Fear? Cowardly behaviour? An opportunity to avoid a conflict? The thought that the lie might save something catastrophic from turning into reality? Or something else? Sometimes it’s a combination of some of these situations. A lie is a lie only when it’s surfaces over our life as our reality. That’s when the lie stings us and sometimes even annihilate whatever feeling of well being the other person might have for us. Sometimes we all need to lie but at other times infact most of those times it can be avoided by a simple solution called belief and trust in truth, even if the truth might sting for a while but won’t spread like poison of a lie. We as human beings aren’t black or white, the situations we face aren’t black or white. It’s an ever changing gradience from white to black we all have to be in an ever varying gradience of white to black situations.
One would happily avoid such complexity and live a simple life but the events of our life are all conjugated and thus a simple yes of today can lead to a thousand conflicts tomorrow. We generally keep this thought beside and live our lives simply but sometimes we make decisions that we ourselves can’t explain come the future. Some of these decisions are utter nonsense. I have made more than a couple of such decisions in my life, lied and hurt people. Very recently I lied to a good friend, someone I care a lot about, putting our friendship in all kinds of trouble. Not only did hiding the truth create a lot of tension that otherwise could have been avoided. I also broke your trust, which a large card and a tiara can’t fix. Just because I chose to avoid telling the truth. If you are reading, I would like you to know I am sorry, you didn’t deserve it and it won’t happen again if you forgive me.
There’s no advice here for anyone just a thought. A thought that I believe that we can avoid a lot of these situations by having a clear vision for what should be done. Easy to say difficult to imply but at times a lie is a matchstick litten, traveling towards the explosives it’s meant to meet and finally burn it all down. So maybe just try the truth instead. Because a truth might hurt but nothing stings like a lie.